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From its year-round sunshine to its annual Gasparilla Pirate Festival, there are tons of reasons to love living in Tampa. However, apartments in some neighborhoods don’t come cheap.
Fortunately, you don’t need to live in the Big Guava to enjoy everything it has to offer. There are lots of cities near Tampa that provide easy access to all the region’s amenities and attractions while maintaining a unique charm of their own.
So, before you commit to leasing an apartment in Tampa, you might want to consider these 10 alternative towns instead, all within 50 miles of downtown:
For renters who want to enjoy the Tampa lifestyle and save some money in the process, Temple Terrace is the perfect option.
This affordable town is just a hop, skip and a jump from Tampa. In normal traffic, you can get from your front door to the Amalie Arena or the David A. Straz Jr. Center for the Performing Arts in around 20 minutes.
Of course, residents don’t have to leave Temple Terrace to find things to do. This Hillsborough County city features tons of amenities, including the Claw (an 18-hole golf course) and Temple Crest Park.
Temple Terrace is also an ideal spot for college students in need of an off-campus apartment. The University of South Florida is just a few minutes away by car, bike or bus.
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Largo is the third-largest city in Pinellas County, which means endless amenities and attractions for the whole family. History buffs will enjoy the Pinellas County Heritage Village, naturists will appreciate John S. Taylor Park and everyone will have fun at the Highland Family Aquatic Center.
If you have kids (or are planning to start a family in the near future), you will also be excited to know that Largo is close to some excellent elementary schools. Curtis Fundamental Elementary School and Pasadena Fundamental Elementary School both receive 10/10 grades from Great Schools.
Should you choose to move to Largo, you will also be just a short drive away from some of the nation’s best beaches including Indian Rocks Beach and Belleair Beach.
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No list of cities near Tampa would be complete without mentioning Clearwater.
This coastal burg is one of the best places to live in the Tampa Bay area. Its picturesque beaches and trendy bars offer renters a uniquely fun and relaxed lifestyle.
This Pinellas County city is also an ideal spot for young professionals. Companies like Tech Data, BayCare Health System and the Suncoast Hospice Foundation have sizable footprints in the area and are always searching for new talent.
Clearwater is the most walkable city on this list. So, if you enjoy taking a stroll with your family in the evenings â it may just be the ideal place for you to rent your next apartment.
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Renters who want to move to Pinellas County, but would prefer somewhere a little quieter than Clearwater or Largo, are sure to love Palm Harbor. This town is almost entirely residential, save for a few charming golf courses.
The real beauty of this city is its location. A short drive can get you to a wide variety of stunning parks, beaches and recreation areas. And just 30 minutes in the car will get you to Tampa International Airport and Raymond James Stadium.
If you decide to move to this quaint burg, you can’t miss the Taste of Palm Harbor festival in October. This annual event offers you the chance to try a plethora of delicious foods and drinks made by dozens of local eateries.
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Plant City is just off Interstate 4, which makes it a breeze to get from this small town to the heart of downtown Tampa. For most residents, this drive should take no more than 30 to 40 minutes.
Convenient commuting isn’t the only reason to live in Plant City, though. This historic burg also offers a large number of breweries, bars and restaurants. It is even home to the Keel and Curley Winery.
However, without question, the Florida Strawberry Festival is the main attraction in Plant City. This annual event lasts 11 days and features scores of rides, art exhibits and dining options.
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Tarpon Springs might be home to just 25,577 residents, but it boasts the highest percentage of Greek Americans of any city in the United States. As such, this picturesque town’s culture is quite similar to that of a small village in Greece.
Each year, Tarpon Springs hosts an Epiphany celebration in which kids go diving for a cross, and the local priest blesses the waters and the boats. The event attracts visitors from throughout the United States and abroad.
Of course, you don’t have to enjoy Greek culture to love living in Tarpon Springs. The city also features lots of parks, bars and recreation areas.
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Lakeland is the largest city in Polk County. It is best known for its abundance of quaint antique shops and early 20th-century architecture. These features give it a look and feel that is unlike that of any other city in Florida.
This unique locale is perfect for families. It offers tons of recreation areas as well as some of the best schools in the area. Lincoln Avenue Academy is particularly popular with local parents.
Because it is on Interstate 4, Lakeland residents also enjoy easy commuting in and out of Tampa. In normal traffic, the journey takes around 45 minutes.
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Dade City is the county seat of Pasco County. By population, it is the smallest town on this list. As a result, it is also one of the quietest and most family-friendly.
Though Florida is generally quite flat, Dade City features a collection of rolling hills that offer residents some stunning views from their apartment balconies.
Like most cities near Tampa, Dade City offers an abundance of green space for renters to enjoy. Dade City Dog Park is especially popular with people who want to help their canine companions make new friends.
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At just 14.18 square miles, Bradenton is the smallest city on this list. However, it packs a lot of amenities into its limited space. This Manatee County town offers residents a baseball stadium, a science and nature museum and a performing arts center.
There are lots of job opportunities in Bradenton, especially in the healthcare sector. Companies like HCA Healthcare, HealthMarkets and Universal Health Services have offices in the region and regularly hire new employees.
Should you decide to rent an apartment in Bradenton, you will also have beaches like Longboat Key and Anna Maria Island just a stone’s throw from your front door.
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Spring Hill is undoubtedly one of the most affordable cities near Tampa. With one-bedroom units averaging $904 per month in this Hernando County town, you’ll have a tough time finding better value for money anywhere in Central Florida.
Its low cost of living isn’t the only thing that brings renters to Spring Hill, though. This charming city features a wildlife sanctuary, an adventure park and a country club. It is also just a short drive to the world-renowned Weeki Wachee Springs State Park.
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It is often hard to stay inspired during this difficult time. Things can look bleak – whether you’re reading the news or braving the world outside of your home. San Francisco has lost its charm during the pandemic. Streets are deserted. Businesses are boarded up and graffitied. All the cultural vitality that draws one to a city like this is canceled. If if we wanted to go somewhere….there’s no nowhere to go.
And so we turn inward. Back towards home. If you’ve been looking to scratch a creative itch, this post is for you.
As this pandemic has continued, I’ve been sharing #StayHomeInspo on Instagram – a respite for the eyes and inspiration for design ideas and creative projects we can do in our own homes to boost our spirits. One of my primary resources of inspiration has been stylist and photographer Colin King. I discovered Colin’s work on Instagram and have been following his creative journey every since – as he styles editorials ranging from corporate clients like Zara Home, to homes that grace the cover of Architectural Digest. As part of his own #StayHomeInspo journey, Colin started his own hashtag – #StayHomeStillLife chronicling his Covid creative outlet – creating stunning still life vignettes in his Manhattan apartment during New York City’s lockdown. I looked forward to a new image from Colin every day and even though he’s back to work outside his home, I still do.
Colin was gracious enough to share some of his creative tips and tricks with Apt34 today. I hope you find his insights as inspiring as I do.
Q: How did you get started, especially doing still life work? Did you have a mentor? Study something? Or just start experimenting?
A: Iâm really good at doing, and not so good at being. Out of all of the careers Iâve had, none of them afforded me the flexibility to work from home. So in an attempt to cope and self soothe, I quickly found comfort in creating still lifes at home. My apartment is small, and there are only so many combinations when it comes to rearranging furniture, so I was forced to think small. It started organically shopping at my favorite decor shop (and the only one that was open) – nature. Foraging quickly led me to taking unrelated, inanimate objects, fruit, and anything else I could find around the house; placing all of that on a clean surface and trying to find an arrangement that felt poetic. The act of creating these still lifes gave me a schedule and presented a challenging, healthy way for me to step away from my screen, disconnect from fear and worry, and just be.
Q: What would you say are the key components of a captivating still life?
A: For me there are three key components of a captivating still life.
Each still life I create, my goal is to conjure the feeling of being a tourist in someone elseâs reality. I never want any of my photos to feel as though youâre on a set or that the elements were contrived specifically for the photo. For example, when I am at a museum or even in someoneâs home for an editorial shoot, I am always noting the forgotten corners, the stanchions, the coat rack, the half-drawn closet curtain; these are the places where there was no thought or extra care given to the placement of things – itâs just where everything naturally fell. Every captivating image Iâve seen has this almost eerie element of a human having just been there moving about unapologetically, and whatâs left is unstyled but perfectly settled. Ultimately, creating a moment that seems more unearthed than contrived.
When approaching my still life I let go of the practical, intended use of each object. To me, a vase isnât a vase and a fork isnât a fork – theyâre just things with their own materiality and form. I love it when I see an image and donât even realize what the objects are until examining closer. Whether itâs upside down, balancing on its side, or completely submerged in a glass of water, there is an irreverence with a nod to surrealism that I love.
Lastly, light. Finding the depth between and beyond the surface the objects are on and how they relate to each other is key. Not only do I want to feel the dimensionality of the image, I also want to use objects that absorb light, reflect light, and bend light arranging them in a poetic display to generate an unexpected conversation.
Q: Are there any tricks of the trade you regularly rely on (tools, adhesives etc)?
A: No tricks. Just patience and a good playlist. Iâve never used a tool or an adhesive, I recognize I have so much to learn but right now I am having fun shattering glasses, chipping ceramics, cursing under my breath, and the freedom that comes with not being bound by any way of doing it. And music has always been a part of my process. As a trained dancer, music brings me a sense of comfort, routine and ritual while keeping me in the present moment.
Q: Your photography is also amazing. The way you use light is incredible. Are you self taught? Do you only use your phone and if so what do you use to edit your photos?
A: Aw, thank you. I am completely self-taught and I only use my iPhone. I just looked and I have 143,885 images on my phone. For each still life I create, or any image really, I take anywhere from 20-40 images per set up. Itâs practice. itâs repetition, itâs trial and error. Itâs like going to the gym and working out. Taking photos is a muscle Iâve been working on since I first got a camera phone in college. I use VSCO and Snapseed to manipulate shadows, contrast, and perspective. Weâre all learning from each other. I look to photographers and other creatives I admire and dissect their images, find what I like about them, and then tinker with my own.
I had to let go of the concept that there was the perfect preset or formula for any of my work. No one was going to share a map or rulebook with me, and through a lot of trial and error, I learned that I canât think my way into being a good photographer or stylist – it’s in the action. I have to use my hands to pick up something tactile – a book to sift through or a couple of objects to arrange. From there I just play, sometimes itâs there and sometimes, I walk away. I get myself into trouble when I wait for inspiration to hit, I have to get up and find it.
Q:You have a very distinct look. I can recognize your work a mile away. How did you go about cultivating that?
A: Intuition has always been my leader in life. I didnât know I was cultivating a look – I just kept taking photos of what I liked and using the limited resources I had. Although the aesthetic strands running through my work are pretty consistent, the influences feeding into the design process are typically eclectic and even the most unlikely of subjects can provide food for thought. Simplicity and finding beauty in the mundane interested me. At first, my minimal sensibility came from not having a large portfolio or a lot of pieces to work with. And ultimately, Iâve always admired the edited life – less color, less clutter, and fewer things sustained by purposeful restraint.
Q: Where do you turn for creative inspiration?
A: I draw my inspiration from other people. Iâve learned to surround myself with people who have something that I want; and challenge me to be more honest, take more risks, and ultimately how to not fear failure. I am energized and encouraged by other peopleâs victories; the immense joy I get from watching peers succeed gives me hope that I too, can achieve anything I put my mind to.
I am also very inspired by nature – I am in constant awe of what it produces. Nature has a way of humbling me and is a great reminder to abandon the idea of perfect – nothing about nature is linear or symmetrical and nothing is immune to decay.
Q: What about your work brings you joy?
A: I get to tell stories for a living and thatâs all Iâve ever wanted to do. I get to connect with people and help create a context for the intimate rituals of peoplesâ lives. And I also get to surrender to the subjectivity of what I do and knowing that the narrative Iâve created will be interpreted differently by each viewer – it challenges me to be vulnerable in a way – itâs all part of being a creative – and I feel grateful to be able to make a living by being creative.
Also, objects that have been given to me or are inherited from a shoot or trip, bring me joy. The handmade pieces in my place, knowing the story and process of the artist brings me joy as well. Ultimately, the smallest object can embody an entire relationship or single experience; theyâre tied integrally to memories and can shape the identity of the room.
Q: Your career has been taking off of late. Where do you hope to be in five years?
A: This time has presented irrefutable evidence that I donât have the power to know where I will be in 5 years. Doing the best at this moment puts me in the best place for the next moment. The saying Time takes time has always been a hard pill for me to swallow, I spent so much of my life wanting to be the fastest, youngest, and the best at everything I did but these unrealistic expectations only brought me pain. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Surrendering to the idea that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, going through exactly what I need to be going through, AND being content with that is where I hope to be in 5 years. I am learning that the most important relationship I have is with myself. When that relationship is strong I am a better son, brother, friend, employee and partner.
Colin you are wise beyond your years and talented beyond belief. Thanks to you I’m going to continue to try to improve my foraging skills! f you find Colin as truly inspirational as I do, I hope you’ll give him a follow on Instagram.
What are you doing to stay inspired during this weird time??
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My granddaughter just got a secured credit card with a $200 limit. She wants to finance a new car for $19,000 in a year or earlier. What does she have to do to obtain this? – Harry
Dear Harry,
You are kind to ask on your granddaughter’s behalf. The short answer is yes, she can get a car loan of that size, but only after she builds a reputation of being a responsible borrower. That takes time and effort. She also must prove to a lender that she can afford the monthly payments, which means she needs an income that is enough to cover all her expenses as well as a hefty car payment.
Here is the strategy for your granddaughter. As a (presumably) young adult, she needs to take control over her own financial life, starting today.
It’s great that your granddaughter has a secured credit card because I would have recommended it! Now what she needs to do is use the card in a very specific way.
Credit reports need to list a steady stream of positive activity, so on a monthly basis, she needs to keep her credit utilization ratio as low as possible. For a credit line of $200, I’d recommend she spend a maximum of $60. That will prevent her score from getting dinged for using too much of her credit line.
A credit score can be calculated at any point of a billing cycle. If you owe too much, even if you plan on paying it off completely, points will be shaved off your scores. (FICO and VantageScore are the two most common scoring companies, and their scores range from 300 to 850.)
No matter what, get payments in by or before the due date.
The credit card issuer will then send that information to the credit reporting agencies, and it will be factored into her scores favorably. Consecutive on-time payments will result in a higher credit score, so as each month passes without a break in that payment history, her scores are sure to increase.
With a credit card, you do have the option to pay partially – but don’t. Instead, your granddaughter should send the credit card issuer every penny of the balance.
Remember, she’s proving to a future car lender (as well as any other creditor, such as a landlord or business) that she’s financially smart and stable. By never carrying over a balance, she’s showing exactly that.
Your granddaughter should check her online credit card statement at least weekly. Her credit card statement will indicate where she charged and how much she currently owes, and checking her statement gives her the opportunity to scale back charging if she’s close to the 30% credit utilization mark.
After using the secured card for about six months, your granddaughter can pull her credit reports from AnnualCreditReport.com. There are three credit reporting agencies (TransUnion, Equifax and Experian) and she’s entitled by law to get all three reports from those bureaus for free once per year. The bureaus are also offering free credit reports every week through April 2022 due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
She should read her credit reports to make sure they’re correct, and if she sees anything wrong, she should dispute it. She does not want to be turned down for her dream car over a mistake on her credit report.
After a year of following this credit-building plan, her scores should be on an upward trajectory. To really hike the numbers, though, your granddaughter should consider applying for an unsecured credit card and using it in the same fashion.
Your granddaughter should seek a credit card that fits her credit rating, so she won’t get denied. Applying for a credit card or loan will result in a hard inquiry on her credit reports, which will lower her credit score a bit temporarily, so she should only seek credit when she needs it. When your granddaughter has two credit accounts, she should use both as she has been using the one.
Eventually, your granddaughter’s credit scores should be in the mid-700s, and at that point, most lenders will consider her to be an appealing borrower. As long as her income is sufficient and secure, she is free to go vehicle shopping.
Just be aware that it’s also easy to bite off more car loan than you can handle financially. To reduce the amount borrowed as well as the monthly payments, make a large down payment. If she hasn’t yet started saving for that, she should do it now.
As your granddaughter’s credit stands now, she most likely won’t qualify for the best car loan rates if she can qualify for a loan at all. I would encourage her to follow the steps outlined above that will help her get the car she wants but know that it will take some time and patience to build a decent credit profile for her to qualify for a substantial car loan.
See related: Buying a car with no credit: 6 things to know
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We are a month and a half into quarantine and date nights in many households have devolved into, âWhat have we not seen on Netflix yet?â While we are all ready to get back out and about, there are plenty of fun date night at home options to help you enjoy and appreciate your partner. This post is partially inspired by the fact that we are celebrating our wedding anniversary tonight and I was already doing so research on what to do this weekend. I figured if I was already doing the work, I might as well share the wealth with you all! Â
Check out a few of our best date night in ideas
Name that Tune
This really is a fun activity that we typically do on road trips, but it works just as well for date night. Play each other your favorite songs from different eras or events in life. Â
What song was popular when you went to your first school dance? Did you ever learn a choreographed dance to a song? What was it? What was your first favorite country/hip hop/punk song? Did you ever dedicate a song to someone on the radio? Make a mixtape? First breakup/heartbreak song you listened to 100 times?
Music is such an integral part of our memories. It is sure to bring out some great stories from your partner that you have never heard before and some great stories from your past that you may have completely forgotten about. All you really need is a Spotify account, your beverage of choice!
Wine Tasting
This is an amusing challenge for the nose and tastebuds. Taste three (or five–no judgment here) wines and figure out which is which based solely on the tasting notesâ¦.you know the âhints of pencil lead and cranberry.â This can be made romantic with dim lights and some candles or you can make this more upbeat with some fun background playlists.
Optional additions to make the night more festive: Cheeses, nuts, olives, crackers, honey
Minute to Win It
Impress each other with feats of strength and balance. This is an evening bound to be full of laughter. Check out this video for inspiration! Challenges include…
Sweets for Sweethearts
Bake together…even if neither of you is an expert in the kitchen, learning something new together is good for relationships!
Here are some recipes that have videos to go along with them
For easy cooking try these 3 Ingredient Desserts
For all those ripe bananas on your counter
For when you can only be trusted with the microwave
20 Questions
It sounds silly, but this really can be a learning experience. If youâve been together you may think you know all the answers…but remember peopleâs tastes and preferences change. Do you really know that sweet tarts are still his favorite candy? Or is Paris still her number one destination? The answers could surprise you!
Double DateÂ
Yes! This is actually possible via Netflix Party.  Pick a movie ahead of time, grab the popcorn and candy and chat with your favorite duo. Â
Take a trip down memory lane
Look at each otherâs pictures from your favorite vacation together. Youâll be surprised to see the vacation through their eyes and their memories. You can relive the best times together and appreciate it in a whole new way. Bring in even more sensory memories by adding a favorite food or drink you discovered during that trip.
Or Take a Virtual Trip
Ever wonder what Venice is like during lockdown?
Join Travel Curious on their next tour with your Venetian born guide, Luca, who will take you on a live virtual walking tour of Venice and will end up in the Venetian mask-maker artisan shop.Â
Join for free on their Instagram Live feed on May 15 2020 at 15:00pm BST / 10:00am EST
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Right now is a fantastic time to be looking for a new apartment home in Washington, DC. The past few years’ construction boom has added a surplus of apartment inventory to the market. The result of extra apartment inventory = move-in specials!
If you are willing to commit to a longer lease term you can score anywhere between one to three months free! Plus if you can make a quick decision, apartments are offering additional incentives like $250 gift cards, free parking, free meal delivery services, and more.
Move-in specials used to only be found at new construction buildings that were just opening up. With all the extra apartment inventory in DC now, the interesting thing we are seeing is that older buildings are getting in on the concession game, too! So it’s possible to get one or two months free at the more budget-friendly buildings.
We’re starting a list of apartment specials here and will add to it as we find more. Hear of an awesome special? Drop us a line at in[email protected] and we’ll be sure to add it to the list!
901 H Street NE, Washington, DC Text with an agent: 855-283-1852 Speak with an agent 833-758-5743
Avec on H is a new apartment building on H Street NE. The building has a huge rooftop with a pool, outdoor living rooms with heaters, conversation areas with firepits, and grilling areas. The building has studios, one, two, and three-bedroom apartments starting at $1564. You can get the two-months free movein special by choosing a longer lease term and if you apply within 48 hours of your apartment tour, you get the additional $250 gift card. They are offering self-guided tours and virtual tours. Check out Avec floorplans here.
1717 20th Street NW, Washington, DC
Speak with an agent 833-300-3125
Dupont Apartments is located just two blocks from the Dupont Circle metro stop. The smaller apartment building doesn’t have all the bells and whistles of a new luxury building, but the prices are great and the location can’t be beaten! The building has studios and one-bedroom apartments starting at $1490. You can get the two-months free move-in special on any available apartment right now. They are offering self-guided tours and virtual tours. Check out Dupont Apartments floorplans here.
1221 South Eads Street, Arlington, VA Speak with an agent 877-472-3092
Aura Pentagon City is located in the heart of Pentagon City. Living here means an easy commute to the Pentagon, Boeing, and the new Amazon HQ2! The building has two rooftop pools, 24-hour concierge, fitness center, and complimentary coffee service! Apartment sizes range from studios up to two-bedrooms and come equipped with large closets, full-size washers and dryers, and gas ranges. You can get the two-months free move-in special on specific apartments right now. Check out Aura floorplans here.
2800 Woodley Road, NW Washington, DC Speak with an agent 833-226-4798
2800 Woodley is on a residential street in the Woodley Park neighborhood. Just four blocks from the Woodley Park/Adams Morgan metro station, this is a great apartment for car-free living lifestyle. However, the residential street does allow for street parking. This rent-control building has a stunning lobby and some of the friendliest front desk employees you will ever meet. The rent is inclusive of all utilities with the exception of cable/internet. Apartment sizes range from studios up to two-bedrooms and come equipped with large closets, wood parquet floors, and gas ranges. You can get the six weeks free move-in special on any available apartment right now. Check out their floorplans here.
1701 Massachusetts NW Washington, DC Speak with an agent 833-716-9395
Located on Massachusetts Avenue, NW The Baystate is made up of 111 studio apartments. The building offers package receiving and pick-up/delivery dry cleaning service. There is on-site management and for your convenience a mobile app to submit work orders or pay your rent. There are an on-site laundry room and fitness center. In the warmer months, you can enjoy the rooftop deck. Studio apartments at this property start at only $1395! You can get the two-months free move-in special on any available apartment right now. Check out their floorplans here.
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Hopefully, you’ll never be put in this situation, but it’s important to have domestic violence awareness as a renter.
According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, âon average, more than 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the United States will experience rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner.” The coronavirus pandemic only worsened those statistics: CNN reported that incidents of domestic violence in the U.S. increased by 8.1 percent after lockdown orders were in place.
Such high numbers mean that there is a likelihood that someone you know directly or someone you live near might be a victim of domestic violence. How do you deal with this type of situation, if it’s a neighbor in your apartment building?
Here are some ways to educate yourself about the signs of domestic violence and improve your domestic violence awareness.
The signs of domestic violence may come in the form of mental or physical abuse. You might hear one person threaten another with injury or you might hear someone humiliating their partner. But the cycle of abuse sometimes is quieter, more subtle. Domestic violence often is a private form of control by one person over another.
Here are some of the warning signs of an abuser as determined by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
Of course, not everyone with a bad temper is an abuser. Depending on how friendly you are with your neighbors, you will likely not see many of the more intimate forms of partner abuse. These include sabotaging someone’s birth control method or forcing sex on an unwilling partner.
If you hear verbal abuse and other aggressive sounds (yelling and screaming, plates breaking, doors slamming) through the walls or you see controlling or stressful interactions on the patio â take note.
According to the NDV Hotline, if you hear suspicious noises that you believe might be an abusive situation, speak with the survivor as soon as possible.
âMake sure to approach them in a safe, private space, listen to them carefully and believe what they have to say,” reads the NDVH website. If you were to call the police, the victim might experience blame and face terrible consequences.
Say something like this: âPlease forgive me for intruding into your life, but I’m hearing it through the walls. I’m worried for your safety. Here’s a number you can call.”
Do call the police if you believe your neighbor’s life or your own is in danger.
NDV suggests doing the following:
First, if you believe that someone is being harmed, you should absolutely call the police. That said, you can tell the police that you are requesting a âwellness check.”
In many municipalities, there are separate domestic violence units â you can request a transfer to speak to someone in that unit. You can also make an anonymous call to 911.
If the police arrive on the scene, they will not tell the abuser who called them.
You can make your landlord aware of what you’re hearing or seeing, but it’s a secondhand account. Unless the landlord or property manager witnesses something firsthand it is difficult for them to get involved.
However, if you make your landlord aware of possible domestic violence, at least they can monitor the situation. Keep in mind that many property managers do not live on the premises â so it is tricky for them sometimes to know what is going on at all times.
As much as you’d like this to happen, it’s not your place to initiate an eviction. It’s up to the victim to contact the landlord or property manager. The victim must then provide proof of domestic violence. This often comes in the form of a restraining order, evidence of criminal charges or a letter from a âqualified third party” like a law enforcement officer.
Every state has its own rules regarding how a landlord must respond to instances of domestic abuse. The landlord can let a tenant who is in an abusive situation break their lease without penalty, for example.
As a concerned neighbor, if the noise from next door encroaches on your âright to quiet enjoyment,” you might be able to push for eviction.
Keep in mind that it can take anywhere from two weeks to three or more months for an eviction.
Living close to a domestic violence situation is extremely stressful. Verbal and physical disputes can happen at any hour of the day and many tend to occur during evenings, often into early morning hours.
You may find yourself on a work call hoping your colleagues don’t hear the neighbors screaming at each other on your end of the line or you may find yourself awake at 3 a.m. by a fight that eventually ends in a 911 call.
Getting rest could start becoming difficult, and you can also begin to feel like you’re walking on eggshells â basically, you’re living with the ups and downs and unpredictability of abuse by living too close to it.
It’s important to maintain your own self-care.
It’s difficult to end the cycle of domestic violence, but one step on the way to healing is to ask for help. Victims need to reach out to people that they trust, friends, neighbors, clergy or therapists.
If you suspect that a nearby tenant is having trouble, do what you can to make yourself available and supportive. Keep in mind how important it is for you to remain healthy and strong so that you can stay helpful.
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